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My Response to, “I Could Never Do That”


“Oh, your boyfriend is in the Navy.”

“Oh, he’s getting deployed.”

“Oh, you don’t get to see him for how many months?”

“I could never do that!”

I hear those 5 words all too often from friends and family.   I understand that they mean well, but they are not helping the situation and they are killing the conversation in the meantime.  I never know what to say after someone drops that dreaded sentence into the discussion.

Should I agree, “Yeah, it’s hard”, or do I say, “Actually you probably could”, either way it sounds super rude…


So here’s my official response:

Did I ever expect my life to take me here? No. Did I expect life to give me this great guy? No.  Or to challenge me with this sort of relationship? No.  I never expected any of this.

Yet, here I am  -in this rewarding relationship, with this perfect guy, and this crazy lifestyle.   Despite the ups and downs -between elated homecomings and lonely deployments- I can’t help but be incredibly grateful.  I wouldn’t give this life, or him, up for anything.

Truth is, all of the people who say, “I could never do that”, could.  They just aren’t in a situation where they have to.  For my Love I would do anything.  For the right person, they could too.

For example, here are some things I never thought I could do:

  1. Drive solo for 3 hours in rush hour traffic to a crazy airport
  2. Visit my Love’s family and meet his extended relatives without him
  3. Fly across the country completely by myself

But guess what!  I have done all of those things despite thinking that I couldn’t.  And I did them all for my Love.

This crazy long distance military relationship has been extremely empowering that way.  I know that I am independent, and that I can do anything I set my mind to.

You never know what life will give you.  So don’t be so quick to say you can’t do something.  Because you really never know if you’ll have to.


How do you respond when someone says, “I could never do that”?


5 thoughts on “My Response to, “I Could Never Do That”

  1. For the right person it’s worth waiting and sacrifice. Those few months here and and there with the right person are better than an easy lifetime of no distance with the wrong person.

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  2. You are so right! I never know how to respond, especially if I’m having a bad day. I try to grit through and say, “oh it’s not that bad. I just keep busy” is my normal response.

    You have fabulous content. I’ll be reading often! Best wishes to you!

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